Fear of intimacy is an epidemic and growing problem in our society. It causes extraordinary levels of pain, despair and isolation. It is a much misunderstood and secret condition which millions suffer from, often without any hope of resolution or healing.
Fear of intimacy is also often at the heart of common conditions such as: depression, anxiety, relationship breakdowns, obsessions, addictions and suicidal tendencies.
In today’s society and culture, there is so much emphasis on performance, objectives, goals, pressure, power and procreation. All these pressures restrict people’s expectations of their sex life, reducing it to something that we ‘do’ instead of a life giving, healing experience based on pleasure, mutual honour and respect.
Sexual problems, also known as ‘sexual dysfunctions’, are common in the general population. One UK-based study suggests that approximately 40 per cent of women and men are affected by some form of sexual dysfunction*. It has also been estimated that over half of all men aged over 40 experience some form of erectile problem and this figure increases with age.
One of the deepest human needs is for happiness and fulfilment through an intimate relationship. For an individual to believe that this possibility is closed to them forever can lead to a lifetime of painful isolation and brings many to the brink of desperation, sickness and even suicide.