‘This has been an experience far beyond what I expected. I guess my original idea of Surrogate Partner Therapy was, “Here is a woman for you to learn to have sex with”. But after speaking to David the first time on the phone, reading his book and finally visiting ICASA, I knew there was something more here. I used to feel that within me, the way I felt was represented by disk divided in two. It reflected how ‘upside down’ I felt. Underneath the darkness I was in was the light. For ages I felt like I was in a mission to turn the disk the right way up. The real me was in the bright side underneath. This disk was always turning a bit, but never yet the right way up. The disk is now the right way up, and now I can walk the path I meant to. I’ve really loved my time at ICASA, and I’m so grateful. Honoured in fact. I love how ICASA’s outlook does not involve separation and splitting off, of good from bad, right and wrong. Surrogates aren’t expected to be ‘angels’, and the client isn’t trained to be either. It helped me feel mature, to feel like a proper guy rather than a whimpy feminine boy. ICASA can really help us get in touch with deeper masculinity rather than some weakened sanitised version. At some point I stopped feeling like a client and more like a student, and now I’m off to learn and make my own mistakes and successes. I’ll continue the exercises while travelling and see what happens. I had felt that ICASA needed to be kept secret, but that was just another barrier to me being whole. Of course I won’t just talk about ICASA willy-nilly to everyone, but it’s not something I have to hide from who I am anymore’.