Sexual Surrogate Partner Therapy

‘A Surrogate Partner is a member of a three-way therapeutic team (supervising therapist, client and surrogate partner) who acts as a partner to a sexually dysfunctional client in the therapy programme and participates in experiential practices involving sensual and sexual touching as well as social and sexual skills training’ – Vena Blanchard, President of IPSA

Over the past twenty years, the ICASA Sexual Surrogate Partner Programme has enabled hundreds of men and women to overcome sexual dysfunctions, gain control of their sexual responses and lead full and satisfying sex lives. This is made possible through a skilled and highly sensitive professional team that includes ICASA Sexual Surrogate Partners.

The steps of the programme are progressive: when you discover new confidence and freedom from anxiety at a particular step, you then progress to the next step. Sexual therapy of this kind enables you to discover intimacy through direct experience – free from the pressures, potential rejection and judgemental attitudes.

Surrogate Partners

Surrogate Partners are highly trained and sensitive individuals, defined by their ability to give of themselves emotionally and physically in order to help and free others from their anxieties and inhibitions.

ICASA Sexual Surrogate Partners are distinguished by their genuine desire to help people, together with a deep connection with their own sexuality. They are extraordinary people; able to give of themselves emotionally and physically in order to help others to heal and fulfil their full sexual potential.

ICASA Surrogate Partners are highly trained to help clients through this sensitive and vulnerable stage of their lives. They are an invaluable part of the ICASA therapy team, which is totally committed to the client’s sexual healing and happiness.

Great care goes into the selection of ICASA Sexual Surrogate Partners. Training and supervision is continuous. Although there are no specific academic qualifications required of a Surrogate Partner, there are some very specific qualities and life experiences which are essential. A positive relationship with one’s own body, sexuality, warmth, compassion, empathy, trust and non-judgemental attitudes towards others are fundamental and vital characteristics.

The School of ICASA is a member of the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA), American Association of Sexual Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) and the Interfaith Ministers Association (IMA).


My Thanks to ICASA for Helping Me Overcome
Fear of Intimacy Through Surrogate Partner Therapy


“Dear David and my now ICASA Family,

When I first made contact with you, I was feeling very insecure, sad and also very uncertain about my future. To say it was a dark place and time would be an understatement. I felt like up until that point I had done everything in my power to try and find or understand love.

Through training and meditation, I had been able to feel less insecure and more confident, but I still lacked confidence in love. I was starting to lose hope.

Now after completing all ten steps of ICASA Recovery Programme, I actually feel privileged. Privileged to have the facts of life and purpose explained and demonstrated first-hand so I could understand them, but also feel the love that I had wished for since a young age.

I know you already know this but my surrogate partner is perfect! The way she listened, the way she made me feel safe. We laughed and the time we spent together was really special. Now I’m writing this with a tear in my eye, I’m not crying though, I am not crying because I’m not sad…I am happy! Happy that I now have the tools I need to understand love and relationships more than I could ever have dreamed of. As I will still be in touch, this isn’t a goodbye, but instead definitely a MASSIVE thank-you!

ICASA Client