Intimacy and Sexual Problems

Fear of intimacy is an epidemic and growing problem in our society. It causes extraordinary levels of pain, despair and isolation. It is a much misunderstood and secret condition which millions suffer from, often without any hope of resolution or healing.

Sexual problems, also known as 'sexual dysfunctions', are common in the general population. One UK-based study suggests that approximately 40 per cent of women and 22 per cent of men are affected by some form of sexual dysfunction*. It has also been estimated that over half of all men aged over 40 experience some form of erectile problem and this figure increases with age.

One of the deepest human needs is for happiness and fulfilment through an intimate relationship. For an individual to believe that this possibility is closed to them forever can lead to a lifetime of painful isolation and brings many to the brink of desperation, sickness and even suicide.

Fear of intimacy is often the cause of sexual difficulties and dysfunctions such as:

In Men

• Performance anxiety
• Erectile dysfunction (erection problems)
• Premature ejaculation
• Inhibited ejaculation
• Pornography addiction

In Women

• Inability to respond sexually
• Orgasmic dysfunction (inability to orgasm)
• Vaginismus (painful sex)

In Men & Women

• Sexual inexperience or non-consummation (adult virgin)
• Loss of libido
• Long term avoidance of intimate and sexual relationships
• Compulsive promiscuity
• Sexual or pornography addiction/paraphilia

In Relationships

• Sexless relationships
• Intimacy after betrayal
• Intimacy after surgery
• Intimacy after menopause
• Sex and ageing 

Common Conditions

Fear of intimacy is also often at the heart of common conditions such as:
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Relationship breakdowns
• Obsessions
• Addictions
• Suicidal tendencies

 

*Nazareth, I. et al. (2003) Problems with sexual function in people attending London general practitioners: cross sectional study. British Medical Journal, 7412, 327-423.