Fear of Intimacy

"I'm 35 and I still haven't lost my virginity. Don't tell me that I haven't met the right woman or that it'll happen for me one day, because I've given up hope. The problem is that I'm really shy, not much use with women and I never pull. At least I've accepted the fact! The thing is I really want to get laid ... I'm really depressed about it. It feels like I'm on the wrong side of a huge mountain and all the women in the world are on the other side..."

This letter is typical of those who write to us with what they see as a very difficult and distressing situation. Having little or no sexual experience can create a sense of isolation and a deep rooted lack of personal confidence which prevents many individuals from attempting to form relationships.

Discovering how to use your body in harmony with your sexual responses is a natural process that can be experienced without anxiety through the supportive and sensitive help available at the School of ICASA.

Stage 1 Intimacy, Connection and Touch

	The Foundation for Intimacy
	The Human System
	Learning How To Touch
	Connecting With Your Partner
	Developing Self Confidence
	Loosening Up
	Nudity and Body Issues

	Becoming Self Assertive
	Hugging and Cuddling
	Receiving Pleasure
	Expressing Pleasure

Stage 2 Sexual Healing and Discovery

	The Sexual Physiology of Women
	Female Anatomy Tour
	Hand Guiding and Touch Coaching

	Developing Sensual Movement
	The Art of The Kiss
	Sensuous Showering
	Non-Demand Genital Caressing

	Taking Charge or Your Arousal
	Getting Beyond Self Consciousness
	Oral Loving
	Condom Confidence

Stage 3 Lovemaking and Sexual Confidence

	Mutuality
	Sexual Breathing
	Using Your Sexual Muscles
	Penetration and Quiet Containment

	Becoming Orgasmic
	Unstructured Lovemaking
	Various Positions
	After-Play

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