Surrogate Sexual Partners

ICASA Sexual Healing Programmes have enabled many people to gain control of their sexual responses and lead a full, satisfying sex life. This is made possible through a skilled and highly sensitive Professional Team including the Principals together with their Surrogate Partners who are distinguished by their genuine desire to help people together with a deep connection with their own sexuality. The School of ICASA is a member of IPSA. Surrogate partners are very special people; defined by their ability to give of themselves emotionally and physically in order to help and unleash others.

ICASA Surrogate Partners are highly trained in developing and encouraging intimacy in order to help clients through this sensitive and vulnerable stage of their life, and are an invaluable part of the therapy team which is totally committed to the client's sexual health.

The relationship with a Surrogate Partner is a time-limited relationship with identified boundaries. It is, however, an authentic relationship for the purposes of resolving the client's presenting complaint and the range of emotional feeling and connection between two people at an intimate level will be potentially experienced, and is an integral part of the healing process. Both client and Surrogate Partner are aware of the eventual closure to the therapeutic relationship and are prepared well in advance for the closure session, which remains a precious and very positive experience.

A Surrogate Partner may, or may not, be a client's ideal in terms of age, physical appearance, background or personality. In order to fully benefit from therapy it is not necessary for the client to feel attracted to the Surrogate Partner as would be expected in a 'dating' relationship. Equally, a Surrogate Partner is not intended to be a substitute for a steady partner or a 'lover'. Clients discover that a genuine connection will easily and quickly develop through the environment of acceptance and genuine intimacy through which the sexual healing and other therapy goals can be experienced.

Although there are no specific academic qualifications required of a Surrogate Partner, there are some very specific qualities and life experiences which are essential to Surrogate Partner Therapy. These include comfort and a positive relationship with one's own body and sexuality, warmth, compassion, empathy and trust. Non-judgmental attitudes towards choice of life-style and sexual orientation are also important. Great care goes into the selection of Surrogate Partners and training is continuous.

IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association) writes: "A Surrogate Partner is a member of a three-way therapeutic team (supervising therapist, client and surrogate partner) who acts as a partner to a sexually dysfunctional client in the therapy programme and participates in experiential exercises involving sensual and sexual touching as well as social and sexual skills training"

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